“Let’s talk about sex, baby
Let’s talk about you and me
Let’s talk about all the good things
And the bad things that may be
Let’s talk about sex
Let’s talk about sex”
“let’s talk about sex” by Salt ‘n’ Pepa, 1991
Don’t you just love that song? Catchy isn’t it? Well I don’t like it. It’s distasteful and it doesn’t make any sense. Maybe you haven’t heard it, in that case—you have missed much. I guess it’s a tad catchy but I won’t push it.
Earlier this week the local paper, The Straits Times, ran an article that submitted that many youths these days do not use contraception when having sex. The attention getter postulated that “over 40% (aged) between 15 and 24 years old didn’t use
contraception with new partner: Poll”. Now I don’t find that statement startling one bit, do you? Given the age group I am going to work on the premise that these findings are of premarital sex and I don’t think you will disagree with that.
The survey was conducted on over 6000 youths over 26 different countries (which include the likes of Australia, Egypt, Indonesia and Singapore, just to name a few) in line with World Contraception Day, which was on Sunday, 25th September. Now
it’s not stated but I am going to assume that most of the sexual encounters
subscribed in the poll are with friends (primarily girlfriends or boyfriends) and not
with hookers because as far as I am concerned, only dimwits forgo the usage of contraception when visiting the whore house (May I have a prostitute vouch for this please?).
While I am not surprised by the tall figure in the poll, I do see it as a potential societal and health problem. To then tackle the problem one has to
identify the roots. Some people attribute the sexual liberalness to a change in times and I believe that is about right. In reference to Knapp’s
relationship development model which illustrates the stages in which a couple
comes together and later drifts apart, it has become glaringly obvious that the
act of sexual intercourse has moved earlier up the “coming together” phase than
it was before.
A quick poll of anyone’s parents and it’s quite safe to say
that consummation, for people born in the 1960s or earlier, only occurred after
the bonding stage, at which, marriage may or may not have taken place,
depending on the circumstances. However it would seem now that this is no longer the case. I may go so far as to say that, the first stage, the initiating stage, where partners work to create a favorable initial impression, may already set the tone and mood for a sexual encounter with the other party. Take for example Uncle Barney at the bar, true story.
Premarital sex now, is not a product of love (was it ever?—perhaps
it was but I don’t know but the new movie Friends with Benefits seem to suggest otherwise), but a mean to quench one’s sexual desires. This notion is seconded by a write up on the Washingtonpost which asserted that young people don’t use condoms because they think it will make sex less pleasurable.
Having said that, I would find the solution as proposed in the article a futile, idealistic attempt to rectify one of the fastest growing societal problems. The extract read, “countries need to focus more on sex education in schools.” I’m pretty sure youths of today are aware of the availability and “benefits” of contraception, the problem lies in the lack of control over ones sexual desires.
<I inserted a very colorful picture of two people having
sex but WordPress removed it, therefore, insert imagination.>
So while some countries advocate the proliferation of contraceptive
material and others propose the greater raising of awareness of contraception and
proper usage, I suggest the education of controlling ones sexual wants instead—aka
abstinence. Now I know some of you might think that as crazy talk, but if you do disagree, save your unhappy words and sex off!